Jan 17, 2012

Trying Not To Croak in Young Adult Ministry

Post provided by Joel VanBriggle.


Joel and his wife Gail serve as the lead pastors at Community Gospel Church in Northvale, NJ.  Feel free to connect via Twitter, @joelzworld and on Facebook

Dodging semis, cars, and motorcycles, and then leaping from log to log, avoiding the crocodiles and snakes is no easy task.   For me, ministry to young adults resembles the plight of the old Atari game, Frogger!  The goal of the game seemed simple enough; lead the little frogs to their home.  Each frog had its place, yet the journey would be unique and filled with many twists and turns.  And so it is with young adult ministry!   

Reaching young adults and helping them find their place as the living Church in their world is increasingly difficult.  The tension between living “in the world and not of the world” has become more stressful as issues like relationships, sex, career, religion, and the like are often shaped by numerous influences, and unfortunately, the Church may barely be on the radar.

Much like Frogger, we can effectively navigate young adults to their respective places in life, but it may require us to take some childhood advice for crossing the road; stop, look, and listen.

STOP:  There are a couple things we need to stop.  (1) Stop feeling guilty.  I don’t know about you, but I’ve found myself feeling guilty that effectiveness and connectivity with this group can be so ridiculously difficult at times.  The truth is, we didn’t create the amount of traffic and distractions that may exist on the road of life.  We are simply called to help navigate, but unfortunately, young adults do not come with an Atari joystick!  (2) Stop relying solely on creative programming.  Success in Frogger is achievable because there is a clear goal.  For a more extensive look at this, Andy Stanley talks about clarifying the win in his book, Seven Practices of Effective Ministry.  At times, I’ve sought to have a creative hook to snag the interest of young adults without an end game in mind.  We really need to stop and determine what we’re actually trying to accomplish.  Are we merely attempting to re-church young adults or are we leading them toward true discipleship?  A good follow up question; “What attributes earmark a Christ-following Young Adult?”   In my experience, young adults are not nearly as impressed with our creative programming as we are!  They’re looking for simple, practical, yet well-thought out ways to live out their faith “in the world and not of the world.” 

LOOK:  One of the known attributes of this younger generation is volunteerism.  Please don’t misinterpret my statement.  Christ-following isn’t a non-profit, service organization designed to gather volunteers; however, none of us will deny that fact that Jesus modeled and called each disciple to serve (Mark 10:43-45; 1 Peter 4:10.)  Serving is one of the most natural indicators that a person understands his or her role in the Body of Christ.  Take a moment to think about your church.  How many young adults are serving in ministry?  Too many times our organizational structures hinder connecting young adults into ministry.  Old men are ushers; young moms and “mature’ ladies work in the nursery; children’s’ church is a hodge-podge of parents with kids; and the sound booth is often vigilantly protected by some 40-60 year old, obsessive compulsive guy who loves the security of his job and space!  This may not be the picture of your church, but I’ve been around!  An effective discipleship model is helping young adults connect with meaningful ministry opportunities—they’re often just waiting to be asked.  Remember—this is about “look”—Look for creative opportunities within the church AND outside the church.  Talk with your various ministry leaders to find out their needs and how your young adults might fill those places of ministry.  Soup kitchens, local shelters and civic groups—embrace this and find opportunities.  Short-term missions trip and service projects have a unique way of forging lasting relationships and spiritual bonds.  Many times the byproduct of serving is a heightened spiritual awareness.  There will be a Holy Spirit tug for ministry preparedness and even holiness as God fine-tunes the heart.  Serving has a wonderful way of inducing spiritual growth.     

Stop…Look…and…

LISTEN:  As a 34 year old lead pastor that grew up in the church, I realize that I can be the biggest hindrance at times.  I spent the greater part of the first 18 year of life learning from school teachers, and then attending Bible college where I paid people to deposit their knowledge into me.  Currently, I teach at a local A/G Bible Institute, and as a pastor, people come each week to hear me impart my incredibly vast knowledge and Biblical insights in such clever ways…needless to say, “talking-head syndrome” becomes very natural and easy!  (I hope you perceived the tongue-in-cheek nature of my previous statement!)  Talking-head is a comfortable, yet deadly liability in ministry to young adults. On the contrary, listening is a powerful asset!  I mentioned earlier that the path for each frog in Frogger is unique…so are the stories of each young adult under your care.  Begin to listen to each one’s personal journey.  I have found that personal struggles and concerns leak out in subtle ways in casual conversations. For the perceptive person, this can lead to meaningful and even life-changing conversations.  Listen to the Holy Spirit.  Listen to God’s Word.  Listen to those entrusted to you!    

Stop. Look. Listen. These three will keep you from croaking in Young Adult Ministry! 

**SPLAT**

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